| 
|
|
Does Cheating Have to be the End?
| |
My fiancé and I moved in together in May after being together for three years. For the first month in our new house everything was great, and she was constantly talking about how happy she was to be living with me. Then right after the NIN show at the Marquis she started acting really weird.
She left on a Wednesday and didn’t come back until Sunday. She was supposedly at work, and just going home with co-workers because she said it was easier to get to work from there. But each phone call kept telling me she wasn’t coming home, and each call got shadier and shadier and so did her reasons about why she couldn’t stay on the phone longer. I sent her an email at work asking her if there was anything she needed to tell me, and she said that everything was fine.
|
After she came home it was 4 days before we had sex again, and when we did she was crying the entire time. When I asked her what was wrong, and if she was crying, she said everything was great and that she wasn’t crying.
|
Two days later I found a letter she was working on which confessed she was cheating on me. When we talked about it she swore it only happened that one time, and that it will never happen again. I want to believe her, but she’s continued to hang out with the guy behind my back. I told her that if she wanted to work things out between us, she couldn’t hang out with the guy as much as she had been doing, and she said that if she can’t be friends with him, she wants out on our relationship.
The few people I've talked to have said cheating is a definite end to a relationship, that there's no excuse, and there's no way to work through it. But she does have self destructive tendencies and I find it believable when she tells me she did it to deliberately sabotage our happiness. She wants to work things out, she’s regretful of her actions, and I want to work things out too. But I don’t feel she’s being entirely honest with me, and that’s my main problem. If she wants to remain friends with the guy, I don’t care, she just needs to tell me, instead of saying she hasn’t talked to him since it happened. Because otherwise, he gives her a ride home and they go to dinner and I find out after the fact.
Basically if she can’t be honest with me, is it worth the possibility that I will get hurt again by her if we try to work on it?
|
|
|
|
